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July 13, 2013

When people with older children or grown children tell me to “cherish every moment” or to enjoy it now because it all goes by “so fast”, I have to keep myself from rolling my eyes. I know their intentions are good and they are only thinking of their own experiences. Maybe they didn’t cherish every moment themselves and have regrets about that. But the fact is there are many moments that I do not cherish. Those include anything to do with bodily functions/fluids, waking up the middle of the night, force feeding vegetables, cleaning up toys 5 seconds after I put them away, waking up at the crack of dawn every day, the endless loads of laundry, the bickering, the hitting, the biting, the back-talking, the bad attitude, the grooming, the doctor’s appointments, the sick days, the cranky days, the oh my god get out of my face days.

Then there are the other moments. The ones that you don’t even realize are “moments” until you find yourself smiling and forgetting about all the laundry and dishes and bills to pay. Maybe it’s a quiet, sweet moment between siblings, or an act of kindness when it’s unexpected. It could be a thank you for a not- so- good meal prepared in a rush after a long day at work. It’s an “I love you” instead of simply a response “I love you too”. Sometimes it’s just a snuggle on the couch or a morning walk on the beach looking for shells. Maybe it’s when a big sister helps teach her little brother to say, “butt face” or helps him open his snack. It’s when a little brother asks, “where’s Kaela?” first thing, every morning and how his whole face lights up every time she walks into a room.

I think those are the moments to cherish. This is what those people are referring to. The little things. We always pay attention to the big events like vacations, the first days of school, the first steps, and the first words. We automatically heighten our senses to take in every moment. But it’s the little things that we tend to miss, in the day-to-day grind of our insanely busy over-scheduled lives. We need to wake up our brains, put down our phones and pay attention. You never know what you might miss.





Summer Travels

July 13, 2013

It has been an extremely busy couple of months. We have traveled more weekends than we have been home. With trips to Maryland, Charleston, Augusta, and Charleston again we have been racking up the mileage and the house and yard are neglected. It has been fun and exhausting and the kids love visiting people and staying in hotels and screaming in the car. We have more gray hairs and are in the market for a bigger car thanks to these weekend get-a-ways.

I took a “me” trip to go visit my best friend Kassia. Her family is going to be moving to Korea in a few months and after that, possibly Europe. People who have their closest friends down the road or even in the next town, have no idea how lucky they are. Mine are spread out all over the southeast and soon to be all over the world. The thing is, though, we all make an effort to be together. We plan trips, rent beach houses, girls weekends, and even phone dates. It was a great, short trip and just maybe when missing them gets hard, I can chase away the lump in my throat with a smile by thinking about all of the amazing memories we have gone out of our way to create.

Kaela had spent the week with her Nanny so we took Kyle and drove to Augusta to pick her up. Kaela and her Nanny have a very special bond, and if you ask Kaela, she will tell you that Nanny is a lot nicer than we are and her house is better and she has better snacks. This was a quick trip but fun because we got to try out sharing one hotel room between the 4 of us. I am a very light sleeper, so I was worried this would not go well. Surprisingly, it was great! Kids fell asleep quickly. Devon and I were exhausted so we did too. Great night sleep, delicious breakfast and fun at the pool. We will be doing that again.

4 days in a row with my love, the beach! It doesn’t get any better than that for me. We stayed at my sister’s house and had a great time. The weather was perfect and I got to spend time with Angela and Brandi, two of my favorite people. Kyle was afraid of the ocean and slightly afraid of the sand. We did go for a walk on the beach together looking for shells. It didn’t seem like a big deal at the time, but when I think about it now, it was one of those small moments that turned into a beautiful memory. Kaela was so excited to be at the “big wave beach”. She played in the water, dug in the sand, chased birds and smiled more those days than I have seen in months.

Here are few pictures from the trips. I wish I had taken more, but I guess I was too busy enjoying the moments to think about taking pictures.